Happiness & Success Principle #1 (from my eBook: The Einstein Effect) : Optimism is the bravery of hope to laugh aloud in the face of fear.
Fear is considered to be the number one enemy of success. Great dreams, hopes and aspiration never saw the light of day because fear could not be overcome. The fear of failure has restrained many people from pursing their dreams and make their dreams come true.
But if you must be happy and successful, you will have to overcome your fears somehow. And here is the key: You can feel the fear, but refuse to listen to it. Rather silence it. Why? Because if you don’t silence it, it could eventually silence your future. No wonder Robert Schuller, the American author said, “If you listen to your fears, you will die never knowing what a great person you might have been.”
I have never seen or read about an exceptional achiever who has never been fearful in some capacity before. Especially, when it comes to believing in themselves and taking the giant steps that would lead to the fulfilment of their greatest ideals. They all went through the same battle of the mind against fear that you and I are going through at the moment. They feared and doubted at different stages of their life,wondering if they were good enough to turn their dreams to reality. After all, we are all humans, often plagued by insecurity, weaknesses and a sense of inadequacy.
But what separates uncommon achievers from the rest is the courage to feel the fear and do it anyway. They recognise that, “Courage is not the absence of fear, but the resistance and mastery of it”, as Mark Twain, the American author and humorist, rightly observed.
From Abraham Lincoln (former American President) to Winston Churchill (former Prime Minister of the UK), and from Helen Keller (the renowned deaf-blind American author) to Martin Luther King Junior (the American civil rights activist) , all had similar success principles of courage and optimism; the virtues that set them apart from mere dreamers.
As Helen Keller herself later said, “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” If your dreams must come true, you will have to develop a resistance to fear and become an optimist, with an unshakable faith and confidence that you possess the seeds of greatness, which nothing on earth can stop from germinating and producing bountifully.
Now, try the following tips to overcome your fears, and cultivate optimism that leads to happiness and success:
1. Identify what you were shaped for. What is your most important passion in life? What have you always wanted to do, but been afraid to attempt? You must have a dream first, before you can make your dream come true. This is the first step.
2. Set clear goals that will move you towards that ultimate dream. The second step to conquering fear and grow optimism is to set specific goals that will take you to your big dream. Write those goals down and attach flexible deadlines to them all.
3. Identify at least three activities you will have to start doing daily to help you achieve your goals. This is what completes the miracle of success – your daily routines. What three things you need to be doing everyday that will eventually link you to your desired destiny?
4. Take action EVERYDAY on doing those three activities that will link you to your desired future. Positive action is the antidote to fear and passivity. You must embrace the good words of Dale Carnegie, the American author and self-improvement expert,that says, “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
5. Be persistent in the face of failure. Whether you like it or not, you’ll fail several times on your way to significance. Failure is nothing but a price to pay for success. Therefore, do not be afraid to fail. Rather embrace it. It is those series of failures that’ll, in due course, turn you into a success material – in character, wisdom, compassion, love, humility and in resilience. In fact the more failures you get through, the faster your breakthrough will appear. Learn from the wisdom of Winston Churchill, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
6. Conquer fear daily by following your heart and intuition regarding any breakthrough idea or insight that might come to mind. Do not yield to fear or the inner critical voice that wants to convince you that your dream is not possible or that you are not good enough. The ultimate responsibility of greatness lies in overcoming fear on a daily basis – by choosing positive actions over passivity, courage over timidity, and faith over doubt. This is optimism – a valuable key to a life of happiness and success. Ralph Waldo Emerson, the American philosopher, put it this way,“He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.”
7. Be patient. Every great future requires time. You cannot create a significant future in a jiffy. You need to allow time to settle you into your desired future. It is fear that always hurries; faith does not. Hope is the willingness to wait for what you’ve already seen in your imagination, until it transmutes into physical reality. So be patient in your positive actions and in confronting fear daily.
Let this Happiness and Success Principle #1 (from my book: The Einstein Effect) become one of your watch-words for living: “Optimism is the bravery of hope to laugh aloud in the face of fear.”
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