2) The ego (inner pride) and Fear of failure: I combine these two elements because they are interrelated. We fear failure because we resent how it makes our ego feels. The ego is the false self carved by our wrong perceptions of the expectations of others about us. After the ego is completely formed, your subconscious mind begins to raise a danger alarm against any undertaking that may potentially challenge or hurt our so called “Ego” or “false Self”. That is why you would rather shrink back from starting a project and let the poor dog lies, than experience the pain of failure.
Unless you detach yourself from the false self, the true self, who is creative, energetic and result-driven, cannot emerge. Highly successful people are those who have tamed their ego and are willing to take the next available actions even in the face of fear and discouragement. Their intention is to fail quicker so that they now what works or doesn’t work so that they can move on. They keep learning and growing – knowing very well that failure is merely feedback to use to correct courses. They are more passionate to succeed than their fear of failure or momentary disappointment. “They understand the wise words of Bill Cosby that says, “In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.”
Ego is the enemy of advancement. It is important that you make up your mind to disengage identifying with your ego. Refuse to let pride stop you from taking positive actions that will liberate you from mediocrity. Reprogram your mind through positive affirmations. Declare yourself as someone who loves to learn, is courageous, resilient and the one who finishes what he starts.
3) Poor perceptions about success. For some, this is the reason why they get discouraged easily – they never really understand how success happens. At school, we were taught how to read, write, solve simple arithmetic etc. But nobody taught us how to succeed. I remember, as a little boy, thinking that success just happens to people like magic without having to do anything. Success is a skill that must be learnt – just like any other life’s skill such as riding a bike, or swimming. So I recommend you start learning skills for success – there are a lot of success coaches and materials out there for those who are willing to learn. Discouragement is inevitable when you do know “how” and what it takes to succeed. Success will require, amongst others, courage, perspiration, faith, patience, quality leaning. “Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success,” said Napoleon Hill. Your success will require more than desire, you will have to cultivate valuable skills necessary for high achievements. Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration,” right said by Thomas A. Edison….